Karen knew it was time to make a change. Her 80-year-old mother had lived alone for years. She was fiercely independent and had many outside activities. But the signs were there. She’d forgotten something on the stove more than once. She’d fallen a few times. She’d had her neighbors call “concerned” about her mother’s behavior. It was time for a decision; one Karen knew would lead to a major fight with her mom.
Like many adult children, the next step is difficult at best. No one likes facing the inevitable. It’s difficult to have to make decisions for your parent. It’s even more difficult when your parent fights you the entire way.
Waiting For An Event
Nobody wants control taken away from them. But sometimes you can ease into it with minor events.
- Did your mom have a minor accident that would stop her from driving?
- Did a mild heart attack leave her more willing to ask for help?
- Did a fall make the decision that she needs assistance?
Sometimes a wakeup call is all your parent will need to be lead to a new way of life. Use events to talk about what’s possible and the best way to move forward. Realize sometimes you’ll have to meet in the middle. [Read more…]