Caregiving isn’t something we choose. In most cases, it’s thrust upon us in the worst of circumstances. Mom goes into the hospital and can never be at home alone again. A diagnosis is made, and it quickly becomes apparent that dad needs daily care.
As the child, you do the responsible thing and commit to caring form mom or dad seven days of the week. In some cases that means visiting them every day. And in some cases, it may be moving them into your home for 24/7 care.
It works for you. But what about for the other relationship in your life? Your relationship with your spouse, partner, or significant other?
While moving to the caregiving role can be a surprise for you, it can be more than overwhelming to your significant other. While its easy to move your focus to the one you’ll now be providing care for, don’t forget the importance of the other relationship in your life too.
Caregiving Tip #1 Give your relationship priority
Too often caregiving is all-consuming, and takes up every moment of your day. You put off everything else, focusing on the day to day problems you face in your new role. Yet you had a life before you took on this role, and you should fight to keep parts of your life during the process as well. This new role as caregiver may be something you have to do. But never forget to give time to keep a healthy perspective between you. [Read more…]