Nothing can be more difficult than caring for a parent in pain. What’s worse is when they can’t talk about it. “It really hurts” is about all you hear.
It doesn’t help that pain is subjective; what hurts for one isn’t how another will feel it. And when doctors don’t take the time to find the root of the problem, it can leave you dealing with long days and nights trying to find relief.
To help you communicate clearly with both your parent’s doctors and be a more effective advocate their needs, use this question list and record what’s happening each day.
Where is the pain located?
How would you describe the pain? Is it a sharp stab? Is it a dull throb? Is it steady or does it come and go?
How would you rate the intensity from 1 to 10?
What makes the pain feel better?
What makes the pain feel worse?
Does it come on suddenly or is it a gradual process?
How long does the pain last? Does it go away on its own or do you always need mediation?
How often does the pain occur?
Does it prevent you from doing normal daily activities? Can you eat? Sleep? Walk?
Record your answers every day. Then bring your notes with you when you meet with your parents’ doctors. The more they know, the more they can pinpoint the problem. And hopefully, take action to alleviate the conditions.