As your parents age, you start stepping in and taking on more responsibility. You might check in on them frequently to ensure they are eating properly. Or make a few phone calls on their behalf as they seem to get easily confused.
You’re helping them. A “thank you” or at least a smile might be nice. Instead, all you receive is rage.
Have you ever felt like your parents are driving you crazy? Have you ever thrown your hands into the air and asked what you’re doing and where you should go from here? Caregivers everywhere have felt like that a time or two.
People are people. And while some of it might be who your parents are as people, you also have to keep in mind that your parents are changing. In some cases, this isn’t who they are; it’s their health that’s causing them to act out.
Rage is one of the most common emotions a caregiver will face. And when you think about it, it makes sense. Your parent might not feel the best. That might have felt that way for a long time. And when they deal with someone daily who asks what they can do for you, eventually it takes its toll. So they yell and scream. They’re irritable. You have to look past the rage and identify the root cause. Chronic pain can be difficult to live with. If it’s Alzheimer’s or some other form of dementia, they may not be fully aware of their behavior. Once you identify what’s causing the rage, it’s easier to step aside and overlook the impact. [Read more…]