Sometimes caregiving brings up all kinds of eye-openers you never expected. Not all of them are easy to take.
When a loved one goes into the hospital, whether for a routine procedure you planned for, or an unexpected visit because of an emergency, you’ll never get the same person in return. The same dynamics no longer exist.
John went in for routine work on his knee. But the rehabilitation took longer than expected. Bouncing back in recovery was a long, drawn out process. Mary was exhausted from the experience of running to the rehab center each day. She couldn’t wait for John to return home. But once he did, she found it was even more challenging. John wasn’t the same as before he checked in.
John was in more pain. Their days were spent dealing with the after effects. More time was spent on personal care; less time on communicating about the things they loved to do together. Their daily walks were out of the question. And all of that began adding to the stress of their relationship.
As a caregiver, the entire process is difficult to take. Change can come so quickly, you barely have time to react. Planning is out of the question. What can you do? [Read more…]