When most of us think of aging, we think superficially about the transitions that take place. We think about grandparents we visited in nursing homes. We think about friends who talk about putting parents into assisted living.

But when we face the situation head-on, the concepts become more challenging to grasp.

What happens when your loved one no longer can navigate life on their own? Can they remain at home with care? Do they need assisted living? Do they need nursing care?

There are also transitions that aren’t as permanent, such as when your loved one goes into the hospital. They may require a few weeks at a rehab center. They may be released back home, albeit in a different condition when they went in.

Throughout these processes, your role as a caregiver doesn’t end. Instead, it changes. You suddenly have different requirements and different expectations. How do you manage this new situation? How do you cope with your feelings about the transition? How do you deal with the new way of life?

Stay active, especially in the first few days/weeks. It’s important for you and your loved one not to feel abandoned. Even if your loved one is active with therapies or activities, make sure you are part of the process. [Read more…]