How long have you been in a caregiving role?
When did you realize there’s something wrong with your relationship?
Caregiving is difficult at best. And in many cases, as more is required from you as a caregiver, the relationship you have with your loved one changes right along with it. What used to be loving, caring, nurturing, no longer is.
As things change, you might have repressed emotions and disregarded your own needs to focus on the needs of your loved one. That’s what we do; we step in and do what has to be done, especially when our loved one no longer can care for himself.
But what about you? Resentment builds. And a lack of internal focus and control means you start searching for external sources of validation and control. If you can’t get to the heart of what makes you you, you’ll find it in the only way you can.
That leads to caretaking instead of caregiving.
What’s the difference? [Read more…]