In some cases, life can instantly change, giving you an entirely new path to travel down. Such is the case when parents who have been married 30, 40, 50 years or more suddenly announce they are getting divorced.
Divorce is hard enough at any age. Yet if your parents’ health was on the decine anyway, and they suddenly separate for various reasons, it can literally send them – and you – into a tailspin. And because neither of them may be comfortable with the new essences of their daily lives, they may turn to the only constant they have – you, their children.
Aging adults that are suddenly single become much more dependent on their children than ever before. The demands from single, senior parents can be emotional, financial or both.
Aging is not an easy process, especially when it has to be done alone. If your mother or father is suddenly alone and faces the harsh reality of medical problems – general aches and pains and difficulty getting around – you could find yourself being needed much more than before. If your parents are divorced and need emotional support, the following tips may help:
- Have a family meeting to discuss your parent and their needs
- Make a rotating schedule of visitors to provide emotional support
- Stay in contact with your parent to determine their safety
- Find medical help and assistance, such as medical vans or support groups for your parent to help them when you cannot be there [Read more…]