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Caregiving Now: When You Don’t Bring The Same Person Home

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Sometimes caregiving brings up all kinds of eye-openers you never expected. Not all of them are easy to take.

When a loved one goes into the hospital, whether for a routine procedure you planned for, or an unexpected visit because of an emergency, you’ll never get the same person in return. The same dynamics no longer exist.

John went in for routine work on his knee. But the rehabilitation took longer than expected. Bouncing back in recovery was a long, drawn out process. Mary was exhausted from the experience of running to the rehab center each day. She couldn’t wait for John to return home. But once he did, she found it was even more challenging. John wasn’t the same as before he checked in.

John was in more pain. Their days were spent dealing with the after effects. More time was spent on personal care; less time on communicating about the things they loved to do together. Their daily walks were out of the question. And all of that began adding to the stress of their relationship.

As a caregiver, the entire process is difficult to take. Change can come so quickly, you barely have time to react. Planning is out of the question. What can you do? [Read more…]

Resolutions You Can Keep As A Caregiver

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This is the time of year people all over the world set new goals and intentions. The gyms are more crowded. You’ll find people ordering more salads than burgers.

And in just a couple of weeks, things will settle down. The goal list will be long forgotten as “life” kicks in and we all fall back to our normal patterns. One study shows that while as many as 41 percent of us make resolutions every year, less than 10 percent of those people feel they were successful in achieving those resolutions.

As a caregiver, you may be tempted to forgo a resolution list this year. Caregiving is a day by day experience in the best of times; why set yourself up for failure by trying to make resolutions come true. That might not be such a good idea. Caregivers face the highest health and mental related problems because of the stress. Putting YOU at the top of the list is more important than ever at this stage of your life.

If you haven’t written out your resolution list for the year, pick up a pen and start writing. Changing the focus may give you just the motivation you need to be healthier, be a better caregiver, and be a happier person. [Read more…]

5 Tips For Living A More Balanced Sandwiched Caregiving Life

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If you look up the definition of “sandwich generation,” you’ll find it is traditionally defined as someone caring for a living parent and a child under the age of 18. Hence, you are sandwiched together in your caregiving responsibilities, ensuring the care and safety for two very different people with two very distinct needs.

In reality, if this sounds like you, your “sandwich” is probably a lot “thicker” than what you care to admit. Maybe you are caring for both of your parents. Or your parents and your in-laws. Maybe you still have grandparents alive and in need of a little TLC. Maybe you have two or three kids going in all different ways. Maybe your job requires 110 percent, including overtime. And your spouse? Yep, they need a little attention too.

And unfortunately, something has to give. You simply can’t keep up with it all. What can you do?

Reprioritize

Ever laugh at New Year’s resolutions, wishing you could set a few priorities once a year and work on them all year through? Do you update your to-do list weekly with demands changing all the time? That’s the reality of many in a sandwich situation. Certain items require more commitment at certain times. And sometimes it’s a battle between which priority you work on first. Realize your priority list will never be completely checked off. You’ll never fit everything in. That means focusing in on doing only the things that are most important. That means letting many things go that don’t fit that bill. [Read more…]

Creating Your Holiday Caregivers Checklist

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Are you heading home for the holidays? Nervous about what you’ll find has changed with mom and dad?

We hear that a lot. Sometimes it’s difficult noticing a change in your parent’s’ behavior when you’re with them every day. But if you live too far away to visit more than once or twice per year, the differences can be striking.

How should you assess the changes? What should you do with the results? And where do you go from here?

 

Luckily, we have the answers. We talk with people in your shoes every year, and help them through this life-changing transition.

What should you do? As you spend time together this holiday season, use this checklist to assess your loved one: [Read more…]

Creating Your Plan For Self Care Before and After Caregiving

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The person you are providing care for has a plan. They have medication to take, doctors to see, tests to take. They live by a daily regiment.

They have a plan … do you?

Or is your plan more of a reaction to everything you do each day to help the person you are caring for? If so, it’s time to change.

You need a plan that focuses in on your well-being. If you don’t take care of self first, you’ll have less to give back to the person you are caring for. We define your self care this way:

Support comes from building a support system all around you
Energy comes from your food, your exercise, your breaks
Love comes from within, from your relationships, and from what you give to the world
Flourish comes from your ability to be grateful for today and remain curious and upbeat about your future

Do you see yourself in any of those statements? Do you see where you need work?

By establishing a self care plan, you’ll add your thoughts about the process and journey you’re on every day. This will include what works for you, what you do to help the person you’re caring for, and whatever else impacts each day.

Use this as your template. Have fun and make your self care plan uniquely your own. Keep it online if that’s your thing. Or buy a fancy journal and write it down each day.

My self care plan focuses on SELF: [Read more…]

Now What? Rebuilding After Caregiving

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It’s a $450 billion industry, contributing billions of hours to the US economy each year. What is it? It’s the unpaid healthcare market. Yet because it’s unpaid, it’s one of the most unfocused.

It takes a lot of time, effort, and financial obligations to take care of the people we love the most. Family caregivers are at the core. To provide a level of care and comfort our loved ones need, caregivers continue to sacrifice a great deal from both their personal and professional lives. Careers aren’t the only thing impacted; it hurts our relationships, our finances, our health, even our spiritual needs are often left unattended in the interest of providing the ultimate in care. Over time, it often becomes a core part of the caregiver’s identity.

But what happens when caregiving ends?

When a caregiver’s life has been consumed by the needs of another, a lot of turmoil can occur following the death of the care recipient. How do you refocus on your own life when your life hasn’t been your own for so long?

It can feel a little selfish at first. Instead of putting your energy outward and onto someone else’s needs, you have the time to devote to yourself. Where do you begin? How do you handle the grief and the emotions surrounding coming back to terms with yourself? [Read more…]

What Are Caregivers Biggest Concerns?

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As a family caregiver, it’s easy to think you’re all alone. Rest assured many other people are facing the same challenges as you.

According to the National Family Caregivers Association, there are more than 65 million family caregivers providing care to their loved ones. And many of them face a significant and sustained burden of care. One-half will be in the caregiving role for more than five years. One-third care for more than one person.

And they face three significant challenges every day.

They are concerned with their own health

Family caregivers report that their own health care tops the list as a concern. [Read more…]

The Caregiving Journey: Keeping A Road Map

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All throughout our lives, we start new journeys over and over again. It’s what makes us human. It’s what adds to our creativity and adventure.

Some we plan for and can’t wait to begin. Marriage, starting a new job, having kids: they all give us a sense the best is yet to come.

But caregiving doesn’t come with those same sensory expectations. We dread the process. Sometimes we ignore the signs, not wanting to face reality until it’s necessary.

Yet it’s all a part of the journey. It’s called life. And as a caregiver, the more aware you are over what you’ll be experiencing together with your loved one, the more you’ll be able to navigate it positively. Once you focus in on the caregiving experience, and look at it as a journey, you can identify pitfalls and what it will take to improve them.

Creating The Path

While it might sound like a difficult thing to do, if you define your goals and create a vision of the experience ahead of you, it can change your approach to caregiving. It will help you refine each step along the path as you enter new stages.

With everything you will be facing, there are others that have been there too. While no two journeys are ever the same, you can find guidance to help you along the way. For instance, with Alzheimer’s, there are several stages a person will experience over time. The more you can learn about the process, the more you can plan for each stage. Reaching out for help to understand more and come to terms with each stage will help your journey.

Overcome The Roadblocks

Creating your map is only the first part of the process. It’s the starting point for understanding and improving the journey. A map can be a guide making suggestions along the way. A map can tell you when you need to take side roads to get the job done. It can also help you reach out for help by giving you clues to what comes next in the process. You no longer become the bad guy in some cases – the map helps to confirm what’s next in the process.

Update your findings every day. It gives you a resource to refer back to again and again. Detailed feedback helps you identify gaps and obstacles you’ve already faced, and can help trigger things that worked (or didn’t work) in the past. Which allows you to update your map and refine your process over and over again.

You’ll gradually smooth out your processes and approach, and become more comfortable with every task, every day.

What Do Caregivers Really Need To Know

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There are two different kinds of caregivers: family caregivers and paid caregivers.

In most cases, families start out by caring for their loved one on their own. It may start with little chores as your loved one’s health and abilities begin to decline. Or it may come all at once, in the case of illness, accident, or surgery.

But the longer you are involved in providing care for your loved one, the more you’ll start to discover you need a little bit of help along the way. That’s where paid caregivers come into the picture. That’s where in-home caregiving can help.

But it’s not as simple as finding someone online, inserting your credit card numbers, and having someone show up at your door. Imagine needing someone who can help lift your loved one, and they don’t have the physical strength to do it, for example. That can be frustrating at best. [Read more…]

7 Rights You Have As A Caregiver

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I have to take what she dishes out. I’m her caregiver.

She’s not who she used to be. She’s suffering with this disease. I have to support her no matter what.

He doesn’t mean to do this. It’s a part of the process.

Have you ever thought or made a statement like one of these? Caregiving can be the most difficult job you’ll ever have to do. And occasionally it can be a fairly rough road.

Many assume they have to stick with it, day after day, no matter what their loved one dishes out. They are the primary caregiver. But don’t forget that you have rights too. It doesn’t make you a selfish or poor caregiver. It makes you a healthy one. And the healthier you are, the more you’ll have to give to the person you are caring for.

You have rights as a caregiver. Keep them close to your heart and remind yourself every day. You have the right: [Read more…]