Caregiving For My Husband
What do you do when your role moves from companion, lover and spouse, to caregiving? How do you learn the role of caregiving for your husband? The entire process, no matter how fast or slow it becomes a part of your life, can simply be overwhelming. Here are five steps to take to learn more about your new role as a caregiver. 
1. If at all possible, sit down and talk with your husband about expectations. How would he like you to care for him? Is he willing to accept in home care to be able to remain at home longer? Will he accept family and friends to help along the way? By talking early about expectations, you may put both of your fears to rest early, and be more accepting to different types of help.
2. Be realistic about finances. If you will have to remain at work 40 hours a week, and your husband needs full time care, he will have to accept some type of help. Is part time an option? Plan ahead and make arrangements before you actually need them.
3. Be realistic about what you can and can’t do. With all of your existing commitments, can you also take on the role as your husband’s caregiver? Learn to say no to family, friends, and community groups you belong to. Cut back in some areas to give yourself more time at home. But don’t forget time for yourself – make sure you save even just a few minutes to do things just for you. You will be a better caregiver if you take care of yourself first.
4. Start your research now. With the general population aging in record levels, specific services geared towards seniors will be at a premium over the coming years. If you know you’ll need in home care help within a couple of years, plan early. Elder care physicians and specialists will also be in higher demand, and may end up with waiting lists for those that aren’t already patients.
5. Make plans for different situations. You may be caregiving for your husband now, but what will happen to him if you get sick, or worse, die? It may be a difficult thing to think about now, but it is important that you plan for the “what if’s”. Look into life insurance and other funding methods. Make out your will with your wishes in mind. And talk to your family so it will be less of a shock if something does arise.
